When your boyfriend wants to take a break it usually means one of two things (though he will probably deny it if you ask him) he either has found someone else he’s interested in but wants to keep you in reserve just in case she isn’t interested, or, he really just wants to end the relationship but thinks it will be easier saying it’s just a break.
Either way, your relationship is in big trouble. There are many ways you can handle this situation depending on what you want, you have to ask yourself a few questions: Do you want to stay in the relationship, or are you willing to let things go and see how they all work out?
Either way your overall strategy will be the same – let him go. I know this may sound odd but if your boyfriend is hot for someone else, you’ll only be pushing him further away if you cling to him. You will force his hand and he will just end the relationship (which, believe it or not, may be a good thing if he’s hot for someone else. You don’t need to be second string).
If he really just wants out but doesn’t have the guts to come right out and say so than the relationship is already over so you might as well move on with your dignity intact. You’re not going to be able to change his mind and you’ll just make yourself look pathetic if you beg him to stay.
During this time don’t talk to him. Don’t call, text, or email him. Give him time to figure out what he really wants, and more importantly, give yourself time to figure out what you really want… and need. You may find, once you get past the shock, that you are OK with this ‘break’ and you may not even mind if the break becomes permanent. Just give yourself time to find out.
If your boyfriend wants to take a break than the best thing you can do is say ‘absolutely’. If he’s just playing with you and trying to stroke his own ego or if he’s really ready to leave, either way you’ll stay strong and won’t have a lot of regrets over the way you acted when your relationship ended. Not having a lot of regrets will make it so much easier to move on to the next stage in your life.
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