Have your own life. Girls don’t like guys who have no lives, and who cling to them like plastic wrap. Some girls do like that, but for all the wrong reasons—either they are insecure and needy for attention, or they’re control freaks who have a need for dominating guys. Unless you want to sign up for either of those scenarios, make sure your life has no shortage of your own friendships, interest, hobbies and goals.
Whenever you’re in a setting where there are girls around, talk to all of them and choose one you’d like to spend more time with. Make it a habit to try and exchange contact information with at least one girl every time you’re around them. If she isn’t interested, no big deal, there’s always next time. If you go on a few dates and it doesn’t turn into a relationship, that’s no big deal either. The point is the more you date, the higher your chances of getting a girlfriend.
Extended, direct eye contact is something lovers usually do. It’s something you can do if the person you’re talking to is noticeably romantically interested, but even then it’s risky because the creep factor is high if you’re mistaken. Look someone in the eye while they’re talking, but also be sure to pull your gaze away periodically and shift your interest to other things. And check to make sure you don’t have a tendency of staring at someone’s body (chest, hands, shoes, whatever) even if in admiration or curiosity. In general, you don’t want to make someone feel like they’re under a microscope.
Learn to read body languages. Whether you notice or not, people are always giving signal as to how they feel about you. If you’re able to read these signals, you’ll be able to adapt your words and behavior so that you can do more of what a girl likes, or stop wasting time with girls who don’t like anything you’re saying or doing.
Warnings
Don’t talk about past relationships. This is a no-no and a sure turn-off. You will only project the impression that you are unable to let go. If a girl asks about your last relationship, just tell them that you realized the two of you weren’t as compatible as you initially thought, so you have moved on to look for someone with whom to discover greater mutual happiness. Keep it brief and don’t ask about their ex.
Be positive. If you have had a bad day, still greet them with pleasure and a big smile. Don’t spend your time with a girl complaining about the traffic, your boss, or your job. If you must whine, whine a little and end that very short whine with a “glad I’m here with you now!” remark.
It’s worth repeating that you should not go on and on about unique hobbies or interests unless the person shares them or asks a lot of questions. If they only ask a few questions, that doesn’t necessarily mean they’re interested; it probably means they’re being polite, so don’t dominate the conversation with your enthusiasm. When first meeting someone, it’s more important to listen to what they have to say than to talk about yourself.
One thing that holds many guys back is being scared that she’ll misinterpret you. For example, you might not want to help her carry something because you’re worried she’ll think you’re a macho guy, and you’re implying that she can’t carry it herself. But push the fear aside and think about what you’re really doing. You’re just helping her because you genuinely want to, and what could possibly be wrong with that? If you’re not trying to question her ability in any way, then she’s not a very nice girl for assuming that you are, is she? So be bold. If what you’re doing comes from the heart, a decent girl will see that. ( “How to Get a Girlfriend” – Wikihow March 13, 2011)
