If you’re crushing on the guy in the next cubicle at work or someone you see at the coffee shop every morning you are probably wondering how you can get his attention. Many women come on way too strong and this can backfire for a couple of reasons. For one thing, you don’t want to appear easy, if you and your crush ever do get together you don’t want it to be just a booty call. Another reason you don’t want to come on too strong is that you might just scare him away. Every guy is different and some like strong women but few will like a pushy, overbearing woman, be willing to take it slow and be discreet.
Instead of dressing in your skimpiest outfit you may want to try more subtle body language cues to let him know that you are interested. While you do want to look your best it’s important that you don’t go too over the top with what you wear and how you do your hair and makeup. Again, you don’t want to give him the idea that all you want is a roll in the hay or that you earn some extra cash as a call girl. You can be sexy and attractive without running around half naked.
Here are some body language tips you can try to let him know you are interested, but not easy:
1. Whether the two of you are together or just happen to be at the same place at the same time, eye contact can make a big impact. Grab his attention ( usually all you have to do is look at someone for several seconds and they will ‘feel’ your eyes on them) hold his gaze for several seconds, then coyly look away. Be careful you don’t stare at him for minutes on end because if you do you’ll look like a loon and scare him off.
2. If the two of you are talking, slightly lean in when you talk to him. Lightly touch him on the arm or back. Just a light touch a few times during the conversation will send him a clear signal that you’re interested. Again, don’t overdo it. This isn’t about pawing the poor guy, it’s about a subtle seduction that any guy who isn’t a complete dork will pick up on.
3. Don’t try too hard. This rule doesn’t just apply to the way you dress. Don’t laugh at his jokes unless you think they really are funny. Don’t gush over his home run in last weeks softball game. Of course, it’s nice to seem interested and maybe a little impressed, but you don’t want to react like he just told you that he found the cure for cancer. Men can smell phony a mile away and most men will be turned off by it.
4. Don’t fall for the cliched idea that all men want is sex. Sure men, and women, love a great sexual encounter but as they get older and mature they become equally interested in someone they can have an intellectual and emotional connection with too, in short they are looking for the same thing women are : a best friend and lover rolled into one. Don’t just play up the sexual side of things, show him what a fun loving, honest, intelligent woman you are and he’ll be very impressed.
These simple tactics can help you if you are trying to get his attention and could lead to a wonderful relationship.
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