A breakup with a boyfriend or girlfriend can be really depressing. It doesn’t mean that the relationship is over, however. Although the breakup makes you feel confused and lonely, you may still feel that you love your ex and that you want to patch things up with him or her ASAP. If you’re asking yourself the question “how can I get my ex back?”, then there are a few important points that you need to know. Firstly, knowing how to react following a breakup can be the make or break of patching up a relationship. You need to be aware not to strain it even further, if you understand this then getting your ex back will be easy.
It can seem difficult to be cheerful and to go on with your day to day activities following a breakup, but it’s proven by many relationship experts that displaying a confident and optimistic attitude can go a long way. Even if you don’t feel that way deep down, it will eventually show through and you’ll be on your way to getting your ex back in no time.
The obvious one is to remain confident if you’re intending to get your ex back. Instead of walking around looking all sad and gloomy, keep yourself occupied and don’t constantly think about the situation. Keep the depression to a minimum and you should be fine. Allow your ex to know that you’re strong and that you don’t need them around to continue on with your life.
Go out and network with friends. If getting your ex back is the only thing on your mind, hang out with people that have a positive attitude towards you. This will help you keep a cool head as to what to do next. Show your ex that you have a lot of good friends that will stand behind you 100%. Your ex will begin to see you differently and think about all the good things that have happened in the past. This is one of the best ways to get your ex’s attention.
Make sure you’re looking your best. Don’t let your appearance show that you’re worrying about your ex. I’m not telling you to go out and buy a completely new wardrobe, but do pay special attention to grooming, hygiene, makeup etc. This is also one of the best and easiest ways to get your ex to notice you.
Keep these things in mind and you’ll thank yourself for doing so.
the confident attuide is good. However, husband in another state and i don’t know what to do if I’m in another state to get him back
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Melesia, do you still feel there is passion between you two? Personally, i don’t think seeing each other only once a year is enough for maintaining a good relationship. If your boyfriend already lives with another girl and he told you he need that girl to help him, i don’t think he treated you as a girlfriend anymore. He sounds kinda self-fish.
I hope you can think carefully about whether you still want to be back with him. If you guys keep apart far away, you never know what really happens in the state he lives. Don’t always believe whatever he says, feel if he still cares about you.
my boyfriend and i use to live in the same state however he move to a difrent state we are still togeather we see eachother once a year however he last his job and was not working he said he had to start a relationship with someone so that she should help him but she got pregnant by him and now they are liveing togeather he said am the one he love and want to be with but at time i get confuce i don’t know what to do
I think that’s a good point that you made, but you don’t want to overdo it. The most important thing to remember is not to let him think you totally rely on him all the time and that you need someone around you. You are independent after all.
He will eventually start talking to you again, because he will actually think that he made the wrong choice to let you go…
ok. so i act all confident and happy. and be like i dont need him.
but i am scared that my ex will think that he made a good decision by letting me go if i can act like the break up didnt bother me. he mostly would be like : “oh well i guess theres no point for me to bother and talk to her if shes better off without me”
so wat should i do???
Do you still want him back after all that? If his emotions are able to be swayed so easily… maybe it’s best to go back and reconsider if he really makes you happy.
it sounded good on being confident but my guy found a girl on internet talked to her 3 weeks flew to miami and put an engagement ring on her finger the day he met her. They are getting married in 6 days. How do I deal with that I lived with him a year and was there when all this happened.